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As we get older, we still have a need for intimacy and companionship and although the dating landscape has changed in recent decades, over 50s dating can be just as fun as it was in your 20s. Whether you are bereaved, divorced or been single for a while, finding yourself single in your 50s can be quite a daunting prospect – but it doesn’t have to be.

The first step in discovering that special someone for you is to make sure that you are ready. Past experiences can influence feelings about dating, and you may be worried about rejection or feel guilty at first – all of which are completely normal when you have been out of the dating scene for a while.

A new dating world brings new ways to meet people

While every dating journey is different there are commonalities and worries that most single people over 50 experience when they start looking for a new partner. Whether you have been married, in a relationship for a long time, or just not been looking for love until now, the dating landscape has changed considerably over the last 30 years. In the past, there was no such thing as online dating or mobile phones and people met naturally through family and friends, work colleagues or simply by bumping into each other when doing everyday things such as going shopping or heading to the pub with friends.

Although those avenues are still options when it comes to finding a partner, busier lifestyles and the growth of online dating has reduced the likelihood of people finding ‘the one’ through those natural methods and most people these days tend to meet online.

However, this can be daunting, especially at first, and if you are worried or confused about the safety of online dating or have tried it before with no luck, then matchmaking and introduction agencies may be a better option for you.

Understanding the difficulties that come with over 50s dating, a matchmaker can help you to navigate the new dating landscape and enjoy a dating journey that leaves you feeling confident, energised and safe. They are on hand to support and guide you through the process, discover what you are really looking for in a partner and hand-select the right matches for you to give you the best chance of success in achieving a long-term relationship.

The dating scene has changed but so has what you are looking for

If you think back to when you were dating in your 20s, you will remember looking for people who were young, lively and attractive – just like yourself back then! However, fast forward 30 years and it is more realistic that you will be seeking someone around your own age with similar interests to you. Physical attraction is still important, but a shared lifestyle often takes higher priority.

Long gone are the nights spent drinking and dancing the night away in nightclubs, but while you may still be young at heart it is likely that those pastimes have been replaced with travel, fine dining and maybe a spot of walking. Although you may still feel the same way you did when you first started dating and be looking forward to meeting that special someone in the future, it is important to be open-minded and realistic as to what you are looking for these days.

Enjoy the journey and the adventure of possibilities

As you get older, the pressure to get married or have children grows – particularly for women – making the search for that right person even more important. For this reason, the dating process can seem slower as the focus is more about finding the right person that you can spend the rest of your life with rather than someone you can date for a shorter period of time without being too concerned about the longer term.

This is where a matchmaker can be truly beneficial, as they will take the hard work out of the search for you. Through getting to know you and working with you closely, your matchmaker will search for that perfect partner for you and introduce you to like-minded individuals that share the same values, aspirations and goals as you – giving you that best chance of a lasting relationship.

Whether you find that special someone in your first introduction or it takes a while longer, enjoy the journey. If you are open-minded about what you are looking for, trust in the process and are honest with yourself and your matchmaker, you will find that the dating journey is just as fun as it was back when you were in your 20s – only this time you are smarter, more confident in yourself and understand what you really want from life and your relationships.

At Ignite Dating we understand that dating over 50s dating brings about challenges that are not as relevant for those dating in the 20s and 30s, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t find love and a new relationship. If you would like to learn more about over 50s dating in the UK and what our service includes, then get in touch with our friendly team today who are ready and waiting to help you find that perfect partner for you.

Dating can be a scary prospect, for both men and women. But it does not have to be. Thankfully, the dating landscape has moved on in recent years and the historic expectations to make the first move, pick up the bill and plan everything down to the smallest detail are outdated and no longer necessary. The playing field has now levelled, and women are just as likely to share the responsibility and take control of their love lives as the men – but where do you start?

The common misconception that men should not ask for advice or discuss their feelings has led many men to struggle at times when it comes to flirting, dating, and even portraying their feelings when they are in a relationship. Despite the changes in the dating landscape and the growing equality of the sexes, men still seem to be bound by the archaic rules of the past when it comes to matters of the heart.

So, if you are a single gentleman who finds dating almost impossible, let us help you with our dating advice for men to help navigate this changing dating landscape.

Put yourself out there

Whether you have had your heart broken in the past or are overwhelmingly shy, burying your feelings and focusing on work or other interests is not going to help you find that special someone. Just like the lottery, you need to be in it to win it – finding that perfect partner for you is going to be impossible if you do not put yourself out there.

Remember nerves are natural

While dating can be a fun and exciting experience when you get into it, everybody experiences nerves and uncertainty when they first get back on the dating scene – especially if you have been out of it for a long time. Rather than running away from it or hiding behind other commitments, embrace the moment and remember that just like you any potential matches will be feeling nervous when they first meet you.

Find the right platform for you

With the evolution of technology, it is now easier than ever before to meet people outside of your work and social circles. At your fingertips you have access to hundreds of dating platforms – but with so many to choose from the search for the right one can be overwhelming. If you are looking to go down the online dating route, think about yourself and the type of person that you wish to attract. Online dating sites differ enormously, so it is important to consider whether you would like a platform that focuses on interests, lifestyles or even political or religious views, to find the right one for you.

However, if the thought of labour-intensive scrolling through profiles does not appeal to you or you have tried it before without much luck, there are other ways to meet people. Matchmakers and introduction agencies are fast becoming the option of choice for busy men across the UK. From writing your profile and arranging your photos to sourcing and selecting the right introductions for you, your dedicated matchmaker will do all the hard work so you can just sit back, relax, and wait for the matches to come rolling in.

First impressions count

It may seem obvious but just like a job interview, first impressions on a date are crucial to there being a second date. You do not want to be remembered as the guy that did not make an effort or show any interest. The easiest way to make a good first impression is to try with your appearance. Have a shower, do your hair, and pick an outfit that works for both smart and casual dates even if they are virtual meetings. We always think you can never go wrong with a shirt and smart jeans or trousers but do not forget the footwear! If you opt for shoes make sure they are polished and not scuffed, if your date is more casual then trainers are okay just be sure that they are clean and not too worn out.

Do not overthink those first conversations

If you are not a naturally bubbly person, the thought of talking to complete strangers may overwhelm you and as a default you may turn to cheesy one liners in a bid to impress – but don’t! Instead, talk to them like you are already friends and just be yourself. If you make good eye contact, smile, and show a genuine interest in what they are saying, you will find the conversation flows much more easily and you (and your date!) will feel more relaxed and at ease.

Remember to follow up after the date

Always send a message to your date afterwards to thank them for their time and let them know that you had a good date. And if that chemistry is not there for you, which it doesn’t have to be, just be honest and let them know that you had a good time but that you feel that the chemistry was not right. By letting them know it will allow them to move on rather than wondering what they did wrong.

If you enjoyed the date and would like to see them again, tell them. The age-old rule of playing hard to get does not work in the modern dating world, so let them know that you would like to see them again – just remember not to come on too strong.

Talk it through with someone you trust

One of the best things to do when the date is over is to talk it through with someone you trust, whether that is a friend or even a matchmaker. It is good to have a conversation with an impartial person about the date regardless of whether it went well or not as it will allow you to get an objective opinion on the way it panned out and how best to proceed next.

One of the greatest and most surprising benefits of using a matchmaker is that they can help you learn so much about yourself. They can give you more confidence and help you to relax, taking away the additional stress of worrying whether there is a common romantic interest. Using a matchmaker can help to make the dating journey much clearer and after a while, even though some dates may not always work out, you will come to feel better about the fact that they were not right for you so you can move on and begin meeting other potential partners with whom you have that spark.

At Ignite Dating, we know that everybody is different which is why a tailored dating advice for men is so important. By working with your very own matchmaker, they will be able to guide you on your very own dating journey and help you find that perfect match – asking all the right questions to get to know you almost as well as your friends and family do, and really focus on getting the best out of you. To find out more and start your journey to find that special someone, get in touch with our friendly team today.

Remember this time last year when the restaurants were decked out with fairy lights, floral arrangements and candles galore, ready for couples to celebrate Valentine’s weekend? Well fast-forward 12 months and due to lockdown and ongoing COVID restrictions Valentine’s Day in 2021 looks very different, but that doesn’t mean it’s over with these romantic date ideas.

Although the traditional Valentine’s date of a romantic meal and drinks is not possible, with a bit of creativity you can put the romance back into this global holiday and earn yourself some brownie points with your date. If you’re looking to take Valentine’s Day to the next level, we’ve rounded up the best virtual date ideas for you to celebrate – despite the restrictions of lockdown.

Bring your favourite restaurant home

Since the closure of restaurants last year, establishments across the country have come up with new ways for you to enjoy their exquisite cuisine from the comfort of your own home. Whether you order takeaway or try your hand at recreating their dishes with a lockdown food kit, simply add a video call, some ambience-setting music and you can enjoy your favourite restaurant together – until you get to do it again in person. Perfect for those self-confessed foodies amongst us!

Go for a romantic stroll

For many of us, going out for our daily walk and getting some fresh air is the highlight of our day, so why not share this with your date and take a romantic stroll together (virtually). You could simply put some headphones in and give them a call, or you might even want to video call them so they can see where you are, and you can feel more like they’re there in person. FaceTime is a great app for video chats as it provides a good, clear connection so you won’t lose each other mid-way through your conversation.

Escape into the past with a virtual museum tour

After almost a year of closures, a lot of museums and galleries are taking their business online and offering virtual tours of venues and exhibitions. Using online platforms, they are able to connect people worldwide via a video link, so would-be visitors can immerse themselves in the wonders of earlier times. Why not tune in to a virtual tour together, then have a video call with coffee and cake afterwards to discuss the tour and your thoughts and opinions on the works of art that you saw and uncover each other’s artistic flair?

Watch a concert together

If you love nothing more than heading to a concert to catch your favourite artist, why not watch a gig at home? Some of the biggest artists and performers have turned to online platforms since music venues were forced to close last year. Using channels like YouTube, fans no longer have to miss out on their favourite performances but can experience a more low-key and intimate affair instead. With a multitude of decades to choose from, you can experience the artists of the past and present from the comfort of your own homes. Watch the concert together on video chat so you can experience the moment and feel like you are both there, and who knows what musical talents you may discover!

Test your teamwork with a virtual escape room

The best relationships are built on a strong foundation of understanding and teamwork. Why not see how well you can solve problems together with a virtual escape room? Taking the craze of the locked room filled with clues and the dreaded timer online, the virtual escape room follows the same immersive problem-solving scenario but rather than trying to escape a room you need to solve the clues to complete the puzzle. With a whole host of fictional situations to choose from, such as prison escapes, hackers and art robberies, you’re sure to find something that you’ll both enjoy and get to know how well you work together as a team. ⠀

Make cocktails together

Just like the lockdown food kits, cocktail making can be a fun alternative to a night out at your favourite cocktail bar. Simply gather a range of ingredients and cocktail recipes that you can find online, add a video call, some music and unleash your inner mixologist. Introduce your date to your favourite tipple and give them the challenge of making it, so next time you get together you know just what to order or even create yourself if you’re having a date night in.

Discover who is the general knowledge master with an online quiz

As a nation, we love the pub and we also love a good pub quiz. Trivia and a drink has been a date night favourite for years and the internet is refusing to let the lockdown change that. If you love a pub quiz, there are plenty of providers and groups out there that are putting them together and hosting on Google Hangouts for others to enjoy. You might even find that your local pub is hosting their regular quiz night but now online, or that one of you has a friend who has chosen to organise the event themselves. You and your date could team up (communicating via your phones) or play separately (but on the same quiz). There is plenty of quizzing going on across the nation right now, making this a great option for your virtual date.

Enjoy a movie marathon

Does your favourite date night include going to the cinema or getting cosy on the sofa and watching a movie? Well, you still can, thanks to Netflix Party. You can watch the same movie at the same time from different locations and there’s even a messaging option which allows you to discuss the film with one another (of course, you can always keep each other on the phone while watching too!). A great way of watching a movie together, even when you’re not, and the bonus is you get to keep the popcorn all to yourself!

Discover the treasures between you

If packing a bag and heading off on an adventure is your idea of a perfect date, why not start the process early and start planning for when lockdown eases. Grab a map and discover the places to explore between your two locations. Whether it is a walk around a local nature reserve or discovering tourist attractions and hidden gems, you will be amazed how many things you come across and all the future dates that you are able to plan to enjoy together in the coming months.

Simply, get to know each other While video chat might not be your first choice of date, particularly if you’ve never met before, it can be a good way to get to know somebody new. Once you get over the feeling of embarrassment thanks to the slightly grainy image of yourself and the way you sound on video, you’ll be surprised how at ease you feel. Put some time aside when you’re not distracted with work, TV or anything else to have a chat over video and find out more about one another and you’ll be surprised how quickly the time flies as you discover those commonalities between you. By spending time messaging and talking over video chat regularly you will build a strong foundation and understanding of each other, perfect for when the time comes, and you can finally meet in person.

At Ignite Dating, we know that the pandemic has caused a shift in the dating landscape but that doesn’t mean that finding somebody to spend your life with isn’t possible. During these uncertain times we are working closely with our clients to facilitate the introductions and open their eyes to the host of opportunities available to them to bring the fun and excitement back to their dating journey. If you are single and looking for help to navigate this new way of dating, then get in touch with our team today and one of our matchmakers can get you back on track with a dating journey that will leave you feeling confident, energised and safe.

From a very young age we start thinking about our perfect partner and while they may evolve and tweak slightly as we grow and our tastes and personalities change, they very rarely stray too far from the original. But how realistic are you about dating and your proposed match?

While basing your ideal partner on a swoon-worthy actor or glamorous supermodel may help you visualise the type of person that you are looking for, realistically your perfect partner is likely to be miles apart from what you initially thought. Think about it, if you were to take your celebrity crush how many of your previous partners looked or even acted like that person? Probably, none.

When it comes to dating you need to be realistic. If you have a long checklist of traits that a partner has to meet it is highly unlikely that you will ever find the one that you are looking for – simply because they do not exist. At some point we need to compromise and really think about the things that are important – the values, aspirations and lifestyle that are compatible to your own.

How many times have you ruled somebody out because they were a few inches shorter than your ideal or a few years older, even though the rest of their profile sounded great? By fixating on that one element, you could be shutting out the perfect partner for you all for the sake of a number on a page.

As we get older things change and the traits and qualities that are most important to us take on a more pivotal role in our decision making. While you may still be attracting younger matches, you have to consider where that relationship will lead long-term. As the age-old saying goes, beauty fades but personality is forever, so when you are next considering a match think about the compatibility as well as the attraction because ultimately you need to ensure that there is more to your relationship than the physical aspects of a person such as looks, age or height.

This is where a matchmaker can really help. Working with a matchmaker can push your boundaries and help change your mindset on what you are looking for. Of course, you need to find your partner attractive and share the same dreams and goals for the future, but you also need to be realistic and open-minded and not turn someone down simply because they don’t tick all the boxes on your checklist.

A matchmaker is able to help guide and support you through the journey and recommend potential introductions based on the characteristics that really matter. After all, how many times have you spoken to a friend who stated that they only find men over 6ft attractive only to find that the man they settle down with is only 5ft 9in. Or found yourself ruling somebody out because they are a few years outside your age range, only to find the perfect partner was a lot older but had the zest for life and get up and go that age subsequently became insignificant.

By being realistic when dating as to what is most important to you, you will find that your relationships are built on stronger foundations with values and aspirations that truly complement yourself and your lifestyle – giving you the best chance of success for that ultimate goal of a long-term committed relationship.

At Ignite Dating, our matchmakers use a unique mix of Myers Briggs personality profiling, intuition and expertise to match you with potential partners that have the values, aspirations and goals that you are looking for. We will introduce you to like-minded individuals that we believe will complement your lifestyle and open your eyes as to the most important aspects of your ideal partner – even if they’re not your usual type. If you’ve been chasing the same type of person for years now with no success and would like to try a new approach with experts to guide you throughout, then get in touch with our team today and let us help you find the right person for you.

It’s almost that time of year again. We’ve already seen the flowers, chocolates, gifts and cards taking pride of place in the supermarket aisles – a gentle reminder that Valentine’s Day is nearly upon us. But if you’re single, the slushy proclamations of love, cheesy couple photos and extravagant gift giving can make even the most content singletons hit meltdown, thinking that something is missing.

Do you find yourself feeling frustrated every year as you scroll through social media and see soppy love post after love post with people shouting out their amazing partners? Or find yourself feeling lost as your friends all get ready to go out on their Valentine’s dates while you settle down to another night alone in front of the TV? Well, we’re here to show you that if you’re serious and put the effort in, Valentine’s Days like this will soon be a thing of the past.

Start looking for love early

There is no hiding from that Valentine’s reminder. Everywhere you look there are symbols of love and the blossoming of relationships. From supermarkets to those socially distanced walks everybody seems to be in love – or so it seems. Rather than grabbing the ice cream and burying yourself in a quilt like Bridget Jones, make this year count. Use those reminders as inspiration to get yourself dating ready and do something positive to make sure that this time next year you are the one getting ready to go out on a Valentine’s date with your significant other. Whether you opt to do it alone through online dating apps or reach out for the expertise and support of a Matchmaker, starting your journey this month will give you the best chance of finding someone to share not only the holiday but the warmer months with as Spring rolls in.

Make the most of this new world

As National lockdown restrictions remain, the opportunity to bump into the love of your life while doing everyday activities such as heading to the bar with friends, doing your grocery shopping or grabbing your morning coffee are especially slim. Instead, more people than ever before are signing up to matchmaking and introduction agencies to give them the best chance of finding the right person.

By working closely with a dedicated Matchmaker to discover more about yourself and what you are looking for in a partner, you can massively increase your chances of finding love this Spring. They will work with you to establish the values and characteristics that are important to you and use a mix of intuition and expertise to present the right person to you and wait for the sparks to fly.

Fall in love with dating again

Blind dates, speed dating and scrolling through hundreds of profiles can all feel very shallow and impersonal and over time a feeling of bitterness and depression towards the dating world can creep in, ruining your chances of finding someone.

However, choosing to work with a Matchmaker can give you a more personal and enjoyable dating journey that will leave you feeling confident, energised and safe. That new approach will put the spring back in your step and have you looking forward to meeting new people and the excitement that dating can bring. And who knows? By the time your friends’ Valentine roses are wilting you could be starting your new journey with the one.

At Ignite Dating, we understand that although finding someone to spend time with on Valentine’s Day is the short-term goal, ultimately you are looking for a life partner. That’s why our Matchmakers work tirelessly to get to know you and what you are looking for so they can introduce you to the right person for you. Someone who shares your ambitions, values and is looking to settle down. So why wait? Get in touch with our friendly team today and Valentine’s Day could be the first day of the rest of your new life.

Every year it happens, regular as clockwork. As soon as it hits the end of December, people start looking back and reflecting on what they have achieved over the past 12 months and more importantly what resolutions they are going to accomplish for the year ahead. Despite the ongoing disruption caused by the coronavirus pandemic, 2021 is no different.

We have already seen numerous posts and promises announcing that this is going to be the year that people get in shape, learn a new skill, or make huge career moves – all with a level of energy which will probably have subsided come Spring. However, another common resolution, but one that is said with more determination and is perhaps the most realistic, is that 2021 is going to be the year that they find love.

There is no denying that the pandemic has altered the way that we live our lives and what we perceive is important to us. Last year, many found their lives turned upside down with changes to their employment, their family routine and their social life – leading all of us to gain a new perspective as to what we want from life and what really matters.

For those looking for love, there is now more choice than ever before when it comes to meeting new people. From local activities and groups relating to a whole range of hobbies and interests to dating agencies and online apps – there really is a way for everyone to find the perfect partner for them.

With ongoing lockdowns and restrictions to help protect us through these unprecedented and challenging times, we have become far more dependent on technology than ever before. This new world has thrust us into a more virtual reality; we now do our banking, shopping and stay in touch online and it is no surprise that people are kindling romances online too.

After all, nine months of isolation has caused us to re-evaluate the importance of relationships and now more than ever we are witnessing more people signing up to online dating apps or enlisting the help of dating agencies and matchmakers to help them find “the one”.

While technology has opened the doors and allowed people to find potential partners outside of their family and friends and work circles, it has also added a touch of creativity to the way that people date. Gone are the tried and trusted dinner dates, sharing life stories over a glass of wine in a fancy restaurant. Instead, people are opting for cocktail making over Zoom, virtual escape rooms and pub quizzes over Microsoft Teams and even movie marathons with text or phone call commentary. It has also led to a return to the slightly old-fashioned “getting to know you” approach to the early days of dating, which many of us would say is no bad thing.

Although the last year has been full of uncertainty and unprecedented challenges, it has also brought with it a more grounded sense of gratitude for the things that we do have in our lives as well as an abundance of opportunities for something new. This new world doesn’t mean the end of dating – far from it. While it may be slightly different to the dating of the past, it has allowed people to think outside the box and make memories that will last a lifetime. In some ways, this may even lead to more special moments. Sometimes it is just a matter of taking a leap of faith and letting the magic happen – with the right people supporting and guiding you and with the evolution of technology, anything is possible.

At Ignite Dating, we recognise that everybody is different and what works for one person may not work for another. We work closely with our clients to understand what they have done so far in their dating journey and how they have found it, this helps us to realise what works for them and to advise and guide them on a dating journey that will leave them feeling more confident, energised and ready to find that special someone that they have been searching for. Ready to commit? Start your year off right and let our expert matchmakers help you make 2021 the year that you find love.

After last night’s announcement from the Prime Minister outlining more weeks’ ahead of lockdown, it is easy to feel disheartened and frustrated with the situation. It is hard to shake the feeling that although we are here almost a year later, it feels like nothing has really changed since March 2020. If you’re single, this feeling of isolation can be amplified, and you may think that lockdown is hampering any chance that you have of finding love but we’re here to put your mind at ease.

Over the last nine months, we have all experienced a shift in perception and a gratitude for the little things that are really important to us. As human beings we are naturally sociable creatures, we enjoy spending time and exploring the wonders of the world with others, which makes yet another lockdown seem like an almost impossible feat. While it is easy to fall into the trap of focusing on what we don’t have and how life used to be, when it comes to your dating journey lockdown 3.0 brings with it a whole host of opportunities.

The introduction of lockdowns, lack of commuting and the inability to go out and socialise has meant that over the last year we have had a lot more time on our hands – and people have come up with creative ways to spend their time. Some have learnt new skills, others have focused on their health and wellbeing and most have taken the opportunity to really think about what they want from life and moved forward with a new focus.

Despite what you might think, lockdown 3.0 is the perfect time to start your dating journey. The uncertainty brought by the pandemic has caused people to re-evaluate the importance of relationships. Dating agencies and apps have seen a huge influx in people looking for love as those that may not have been so serious about settling down into a serious relationship before, have found a new sense of commitment to finding love and companionship during these strange times.

Remember the days, when you first started dating and you would spend hours on the phone getting to know somebody. Well, lockdown gives the perfect excuse to throw back to those days. Being stuck inside and miles apart doesn’t have to stop you from getting to know somebody. Whether you choose to spend your nights texting or on the phone talking, by arranging a set day and time for your call it can feel like an actual date and you may be surprised at just how much you have to talk about when you do finally get to meet in person. 

Technology has changed the way that we live our lives. We now shop, bank and socialise online so it is no surprise that people are searching for love online too. There are now a vast variety of online applications to add a touch of creativity to your date nights. From Netflix Party movie nights, to cooking together over Skype or even taking part in a virtual quiz, there are a multitude of virtual date ideas to bring a sense of fun and laughter to your evenings.

At Ignite Dating, we understand that dating is an important part of our social lives, but it is also vital that we listen to the Government advice to keep ourselves and those around us safe. While the weeks’ ahead will bring a period of uncertainty and a mix of emotions, by using technology and services like those provided by ourselves, lockdown doesn’t have to mean the end of dating but instead brings the opportunity for deeper connections and stronger relationships. If you want to find out more about how we can help you to keep your dating journey on track, get in touch with our friendly team today and let our expert matchmakers guide you on this rollercoaster journey.

This year has had a fundamental impact on dating and as new lockdown restrictions came into play and social distancing was enforced, new dating trends emerged. From apocalypsing to ghosting, 2020 saw a manner of dating trends arise and as we enter into a new year of even more uncertainty, it seems mono-manic dating (or MMD for short) is the trend that we need to watch out for.

The mono-manic approach to dating really hinders a person’s chances of finding not just a partner but more importantly the right partner. A mentality that is often more common in women than in men, mono-manic dating is when an individual forms an obsession with one aspect of a person – whether it be their age or height for example – which in effect blinkers them from being able to see the whole package of a prospective partner.

How many people do you know that are insistent that they only find men over 6ft attractive, only to discover later that their actual chosen life partner and soul mate ends up being 5ft 8”. Or those that insist that they do not find women their age desirable and then end up falling in love with a woman a few years older? The answer, lots.

By fixating on one aspect of a person, you are missing out on all the other great qualities and traits that they have, leading you to potentially decline the perfect life partner for you all for the sake of one criteria that you have become attached to. It’s a fact of life that not everyone can live up to our expectations, especially if you’ve set the bar pretty high. So, when you’re dating it’s important that you review every profile and meet every prospective partner with an open mind.

Once people can get past the mono-manic dating mindset and see people for who they are rather than focusing on the number in their heads, the happier and more successful their dating journey will be. After all, life is too short to spend it lonely and looking for the ‘perfect’ partner that ticks every box on your checklist. So next time you look at someone’s profile and say to yourself “they’re great but…” be a bit more open-minded and ignore the mono-manic way of dating, because let’s face it, you might find something you never knew you were looking for!

Here at Ignite Dating not only do we guide you through the dating minefield, but our matchmakers will also recommend matches that may be different to your usual ‘type’, therefore steering you away from possible mono-manic dating. Many of our success stories have come from introductions that haven’t necessarily been the perfect fit on paper, but the sparks and chemistry have been there from the moment they met. Trusting your matchmaker to do their job and get the right outcome for you is imperative and the results can be highly rewarding. Don’t fall victim to mono-manic dating, let our matchmakers help steer you in the right direction to find your perfect life partner today.

In the era of online dating, you would be forgiven for thinking that matchmakers and traditional agencies are a dying breed, but you couldn’t be further from the truth. While online dating apps have attracted the attention of singletons worldwide offering the premise of easy dating, many people have quickly become disenchanted with the labour-intensive scrolling of potential dates, the casual hookups and the alarming number of fake profiles.

When looking for a potential life partner you are essentially looking for a joint CEO

of your life. Someone who shares your values, aspirations and lifestyle and is genuinely looking for a long-term committed relationship – all areas where dating apps can fall short. As a result, there are a vast number of matchmaking and introduction agencies out there to help those looking for love, but with so many to choose from how do you know which is the right agency for you? Our guide on selecting a dating agency will reveal all.

Extensive expertise to help you get the best from your dating journey

You wouldn’t buy a car from a pushy salesman with no credentials, so why should outsourcing your dating journey to a professional be any different? While it is easy to play matchmaker for friends and family who you know well, it is an entirely different ball game when it comes to finding that life partner for a client.

An experienced matchmaker will spend some time getting to know all the little details that make you, you. It is not simply enough to know who you are and what it is you want from a partner. Sometimes the smallest nuggets of information that you give can help experienced matchmakers find a partner with similar interests, ambitions and aspirations. These nuggets can be crucial if you are to find that successful lifelong partnership you are looking for – but can be glossed over by inexperienced matchmakers, leading to unsuitable matches and a delay to your dating journey.

Matchmakers can help you learn so much about yourself too. You may think you know exactly what you want in a partner but find that after a few conversations with your matchmaker, they raise some good points that cause you to re-evaluate what you are really looking for in a relationship. Utilising the expertise of an experienced matchmaker when selecting a dating agency, can lead to more successful and fulfilling relationships overall, not to mention more fun and less stress on the dating journey as you go through!

Reputation and knowledge of the industry is priceless

When looking to select an agency, bear in mind that reputation and knowledge of the industry can be key differentiators when it comes to finding that perfect partner for you. Like most industries, technology and new fads have an impact on the dating sector and every year, new platforms or trends arise to “help” those looking for love, creating a minefield when looking for the one that is right for you.

Knowledge of the dating industry is key, and you will find that most reputable agencies have either been around for a long time or they are run by individuals with extensive expertise and previous roles within the industry. Always ask about the agency history as this will give you a good insight into how the agency came about and the people that are behind it.

This goes hand in hand with reputation. Matchmaking agencies that have been operating for a substantial length of time or run by individuals that have been involved in the industry for a long time generally have a stronger reputation than those that haven’t. Reputation is not something that can be bought, so look out for reviews and testimonials from clients as this will give you a good indicator as to how others have found the journey. Coverage in well-respected media publications is also a good indicator of those with strong reputations as it showcases their expertise and knowledge of the industry in an unbiased way.

Identity checks and in-depth interviews for peace of mind

One of the biggest downfalls of dating apps and unreputable agencies is the lack of checks, allowing people to be whoever they want to be. This makes them a prime location for fraudulent profiles and cybercriminals looking to prey on the unsuspecting and vulnerable.

Safety and security are high priorities for matchmaking and introduction agencies, and they will always carry out ID checks to make sure that every individual is legitimate and who they say they are. After all, they do not want to introduce a client to somebody that has not been through the same verification process that their clients have undertaken.

Qualifications speak a thousand words

Matchmakers and relationship coaches or therapists are completely different entities. While matchmakers make good sounding boards to discuss the emotionally-charged process of looking for love – often providing support and encouragement along the way – they are not qualified professionals trained to provide advice and opinions on matters of relationships or emotional disorders.

If services like these are necessary, a reputable agency will have specially trained professionals that they can refer you to rather than giving you that advice and guidance themselves, unless they have the qualifications to support it.

While selecting a dating agency that is reputable is important, it is even more important that you choose a matchmaker that is right for you. You will be working closely with this individual and have to trust them to understand you and what you are looking for, in order to find that perfect partner for you. To build this close working relationship you need to be sure that they are open, honest and empathetic towards your situation. Your matchmaker will use their skills, emotional intelligence and time to help you find the life partner for you – and trust us, once you’ve found the right agency and matchmaker for you, you’ll be glad you put your love life in their very capable hands.

At Ignite Dating, we pride ourselves on our extensive expertise, knowledge and understanding of the industry to ensure that you get the best out of your dating journey. Our expert matchmakers have a decade of combined experience under their belts and using a mixture of Myers Briggs personality profiling, intuition and proficiency, we will help you to find the perfect partner for you. Your dedicated matchmaker will work closely with you to get a better understanding of what it is that you are looking for in a relationship before presenting you with carefully selected and vetted matches so you can begin your journey to achieving the ultimate goal of a lifetime partner. Ready to commit? Get in touch and let us find the perfect partner for you.

You have been dating for a while and have enjoyed getting to know each other over coffees, lunches and even dinner dates but suddenly there is a shift that you cannot quite put your finger on – are these early signs he is losing interest?

To most, ‘he’s just not that into you’ may have been a hit romantic comedy of the past, but the overarching challenges of reading (or misreading) human behaviour are just as real now as they were 10 years ago.

So, what should you be looking for when your date has gone from hanging on your every word to being harder to tie down for a date than that exclusive restaurant in town?

When it comes to dating, the signs are always there you just need to learn how to read them. If you are struggling to decipher where things are heading and cannot help shaking that feeling that he is losing interest, look out for these 5 signs he is losing interest or just busy.

1. Phone calls and texts have steadily decreased

You used to talk and text daily, but lately there has been a shift in communication between the two of you without any reason. It may have resulted in arranging calls that simply did not happen or maybe there have been times where he has not reached out for days and then suddenly wants to meet up. If this behaviour is becoming more regular it could be a sign that he is just not interested.

Men are not very good at feigning interest, so the lack of communication might be his way of saying that he is not particularly interested in developing this into something more serious. However, by keeping in touch between the breaks of radio silence it is likely that he does not want to burn bridges between you but is looking for a more casual relationship.

If you are looking for more commitment it may be time to call him out on it, as playing along with him will only result in heartbreak for you. A real discussion needs to take place as to where you both stand on your dating journey and what you want from the future. If it does not align then moving on is the only choice you have.

2. Quality time together has started to dwindle

We all know that there are times when life gets a little busier and it makes it harder to pin down plans. But if you are finding that you are spending a lot less time together than you used to, or you are trying to make plans but facing a wall of excuses and reasons to avoid it then maybe it is time to take a step back and reassess.

You need to confirm whether he is genuinely busy with other commitments or whether he is simply avoiding you, and the best way to do that is to have an honest conversation about your feelings and asking him what is going on. Rather than play the role of the bad guy, men tend to distance themselves to make it easier to end things later down the line to avoid hurting you. If he is not interested in spending time with you, call it a day and spend time with those that relish your company instead.

3. Intimacy has become scarce

When you first started dating things were hot and steamy but these days those intimate moments are few and far between and you find it hard to remember the last time that you kissed, held hands, or even hugged.

If he has put intimacy on hold, whether physical or emotional, you need to reach out to him and find out what is going on. While there are things that you can do to bring that elusive spark back to the relationship, you need to decide whether it is worth the effort.

4. Things are becoming increasingly one-sided

In the early days you spoke regularly during the day and would often have long conversations about anything and everything – enjoying that feeling of getting to know each other. However, these days it seems like you are the only one checking in and asking the questions and your calls and texts often go hours or even days without a response.

You need to find out first if he is putting in no effort because he is losing interest, or he genuinely has a lot of other things going on in his life that are taking more of his time. It is important to open up a conversation and check in with him to see how things are going with him and if anything is bothering him. If he values you, he will respect the fact that you reached out and will slowly start to open up and put your mind at ease. If he does not and there is nothing else going on in his life, it is maybe time to walk away and place your effort elsewhere.

5. He dodges questions about your status or where it is going

When you first start dating, it can be hard to know when the right time is to put a label on the relationship. If you have been dating a while and he is not making any real effort towards making it official between you or giving vague answers when you question him about it, it may be a sign that you are not quite right for him.

If he is acting like you are a couple but unwilling to make a commitment to you there is a strong chance that he is not really interested in a deeper relationship. This does not mean that he is not enjoying the time with you or that you guys have no future – but the chances of things getting serious are unlikely. Instead, he is probably more interested in a casual relationship, so if that is not what you are looking for it may be time to call it off.

How to take back the power and pique his interest (if you want to)

If the above signs seem familiar, it is time for you to think about your feelings and what you want from this prospective love interest. If you are looking for a long-term committed relationship and see potential, then you need to be honest with each other and make sure that you are both on the same page.

When it comes to attraction, chemistry is something that cannot be forced. It is impossible to make somebody commit to you if those feelings are not there for them. Be true to yourself and understand if your partner is ready for what you are expecting out of the relationship. It takes time to move from dating to a relationship and you need to give it time to develop naturally.

During that time, concentrate on yourself too. If you feel that you are losing yourself and putting everything into dating, then make some time for the other people in your life. Whether that is spending time with family or hanging out with friends, it is important that you are not always available and dependent on your date for happiness.

If you still find that he is unsure about taking the next steps towards a committed relationship, then maybe a time out will be good for both of you. There is no point making yourself miserable and becoming hopelessly devoted to someone who is not quite where you need them to be. Instead concentrate on the other aspects of your life and who knows, maybe a bit of distance from you will make his heart grow fonder.

At Ignite Dating, we know how confusing it can be to read human behaviour – particularly in those early stages of dating when you are just getting to know someone. Our dedicated matchmakers are on hand to help you decode his behaviour and will provide you with constructive feedback after every introduction, so you know where you stand. If you would like a more supportive dating journey without the mind games, then join us today.