Month: July 2021

Many people turn to dating apps and websites for convenience, quick connections and, let’s face it, because a lot of them are free.

Some of these dating platforms use databases and algorithms to match single people with like-minded individuals also registered with the site. Others simply send you a load of profiles that loosely fit the criteria you set out on registration and let you make your own mind up.

Sounds pretty good right?

Well, yes and no.

Depending on what you’re looking for, database matching might work for you – particularly if you are searching for something more casual. But if you’re looking for love and genuine connections, headhunter matchmaking services can be a lot more effective.

And we’re going to tell you why.

You don’t want to put all your eggs in one basket

By relying on database matching, whether in the form of dating agencies or apps, you are essentially putting all of your eggs into one basket.

You’re essentially trusting that your perfect partner-to-be is with the same agency or database app as you, at the exact same time that you are looking for love, and that they happen to be looking for the exact same things that you have said you bring. Realistically speaking, those odds aren’t great.

Ultimately, it’s a bit of a game of luck and when it comes to finding love, you don’t really want to leave it to chance.

Not only this, but database matchmaking can feel restrictive (even with thousands of potential matches in the system) because it reflects a more ‘take it or leave it approach’. What we mean by this is that once you’ve explored all of your potential matches, you might end up settling for someone who ultimately isn’t exactly what you are looking for simply because you believe those are the only options available to you through your chosen platform.

However, it’s important to remember that there’s a big wide world out there that you don’t ever see, so don’t settle for someone that you know isn’t right from the start.

Databases rely on robots

One of the key differences when it comes to database matching versus headhunting matchmaking services is that databases rely on machines and algorithms, where headhunters rely on actual people with a real intuition for finding that perfect partner.

And these people can understand your wants and needs better than any robot ever can because they have human emotions themselves. 

What’s more, matchmaking services like Ignite Dating are very personalised and allow you to be more descriptive and specific about what you want from a relationship and a potential partner. Your matchmaker’s job is to help find you love, and they are totally dedicated to matching you with the perfect partner – someone who shares the same values, aspirations and lifestyle as you.

Plus, when it comes to the dating journey, if you’ve not had much luck in the past or you feel like you’ve exhausted all your options, matchmaking services can offer the extra support and personal touch you’ve been looking for.

Matchmakers take on a lot of the hard work

And finally, why spend hours swiping through dating apps or chasing potential partners that might not be looking for the same things as you when a dedicated matchmaker can take on a lot of this stress for you.

The matchmaker’s job is to not only understand what you’re looking for in a partner but also to appreciate the little things that make you who you are. This will help them to decipher what is really important to you and find you potential matches that have the best chance of success. So, all you have to do is sit back, relax and wait for the call, knowing that your dedicated matchmaker has done all of the hard work for you to find you that potential partner that you have been searching for.

This can make the dating journey a lot less stressful for you as you get the fun parts of dating, like getting to know someone and enjoying a dating journey that is sure to leave you feeling energised, confident, and safe – just as it should be!

So if you’re tired of hoping that database matchmaking will throw out the partner of your dreams, it might be time to get yourself a dedicated matchmaker to help you find love. Get in touch with the talented team at Ignite Dating today to see how we can help you find that person you’re searching for.

Three years ago, if someone had told you that one day in the near future, the Government would impose a nationwide lockdown that would put a ban on socialising and dating, you would have laughed in their face. But as we all know too well, that was the reality of 2020.

For some, that meant months of not being able to see friends, family and in some cases partners, while for others, it meant months of lockdown with their other half.

Either way, this unprecedented reality led to many of us re-evaluating lots of aspects of our lives, including our relationships (or lack thereof).

Although we all pray that there won’t be another lockdown and that there will never be another challenge like this in our lifetime, after the last year we know that nothing is guaranteed. This is why so many have begun preparing for the future, no matter what it might bring.

And this includes preparing for future relationships. 

Many changed their minds completely

There are plenty of people out there who for years would have said they were happy to be single. However, once faced with the unnegotiable reality of isolation and with a lot more time on their hands, many of those people have changed their minds since the pandemic.

This is most likely because being alone for months caused them to re-think their relationship status and what they want from their life. But whatever the cause, sign-ups to dating sites, apps, and agencies sky-rocketed during lockdown as people realised the importance of finding companionship for the future.

The pandemic helped people to understand what they really want from a partner

Following on from this, there were plenty of couples during lockdown that, once together for extended periods of time, realised that they just weren’t right for one another.

When put under a microscope, it’s much easier to find the flaws in each other, and in the challenging times of lockdown, lots of couples found that they wanted different things.

This led to an influx of break-ups as people began looking for newer, healthier and happier relationships and prepared themselves to get back in the dating world to find the perfect match.

Lots of women began preparing for their future family

As we said, we hope that there will be no more lockdowns again in the future. However, this doesn’t detract from the fact that lots of women have just lived through 18 months of their life unable to date or find a future partner.

This saw an increase in women choosing to freeze their eggs, with some clinics even seeing a staggering 50% rise in enquiries.

In some ways this is unsurprising given that most of us want to be with a partner for several years before starting a family. But the scale of the response is startling and shows how seriously these women are taking the situation that lays ahead of them.

It’s time to look to the future

Whether you went into lockdown single or with a partner, there are lots of people who are now ready to get back out on the dating scene and look ahead to the future.

From re-thinking what it is you’re looking for in a partner to making huge decisions like preparing for a future family, it’s clear that lockdown had a huge impact on our lives and our future relationships. If you’re one of those reconsidering your priorities, you’re in good company.

So, if you’re hoping to find love in the future and you’re currently looking for the perfect partner, we can help. Get in touch with our team of expert matchmakers today to find out more about how they can support you on your dating journey this year to find that partner that shares the same values, aspirations and life goals as you.

Do you like your partners to be Tall? Small? Older? Younger? Curvy? Thin?

Perhaps you think you know exactly what your ‘type’ is and what you’re looking for on your dating journey. But in reality, you could actually be hurting your chances of finding the right person.  

In fact, all the things you think are deal-breakers could be holding you back from finding love. Being too focused on specific elements of your criteria is known as mono-manic dating. And we’re here to tell you why sometimes a number should remain just that.

You could be fixating on the wrong things

As we said, you might think that you know what your type is, but when it comes down to it, this could just be something you’ve told yourself and never tested.

Because often, those who have spent their whole life saying they only like men over 6 foot will find love with someone who is 5’8. Or a man who says he loves younger women can find the perfect partner his own age or older.   

Essentially what we’re saying is that you might be telling yourself you have a type, but if you met the right person, this would no longer matter to you.

It could cost you the perfect partner

What’s more, when you spend your time fixating on numbers like height, age, size, etc., you overlook so many other important factors. This could then cost you the perfect partner just because you believe they aren’t meeting the criteria that you have set out for yourself (and them).

By keeping an open mind, you open yourself up to so many other exciting opportunities, and you’re far more likely to find the right partner and ultimately that long-term success that you’ve been searching for.

If you’ve spent your whole dating life looking for a particular ‘type’ with no luck, then maybe now it is time to open your horizons. In the end if you want to get something different, you must do something different. 

The mental is just as important as the physical

Of course, physical attraction is important when dating, but it’s also important to remember that there are lots of other aspects that you need to consider if you want a long-lasting, happy relationship. After all, as the well-known saying goes ‘looks fade but personality lasts a lifetime’.

The mental and emotional part of a relationship is just as crucial as the physical. You want to find a partner that shares similar interests and aspirations to you so that together you can build a meaningful relationship.

If you only focus on someone’s appearance and numbers (height, weight, etc.), then you limit yourself to a smaller number of potential partners and you reduce the likelihood of finding someone with whom you share a genuine emotional connection.

So, why don’t you leave the numbers to the mathematicians and ask yourself, is it really a deal-breaker? And instead of mono-manic dating, try to keep an open mind when embarking on your dating journey.

At Ignite Dating, we understand that the physical side of a person is important, but we also know what is needed to make a deeper connection. That is why our expert matchmakers work closely with you to find out what you really want from a partner, so we can help to find you the perfect match. So, if you’re ready to put your ‘type’ aside and look for a meaningful relationship, our team can help, simply get in touch today to find out more.

Ben and Jennifer, Katy and Orlando, Khloe and Tristan, Gigi and Zayn – is it just us or has getting back with your ex become the new dating trend in 2021?

While it can feel all too easy and familiar to rekindle an old relationship, especially following 18 months of limited dating options, it’s important to remember that you broke up for a reason.

And much like many of the insane diet trends out there, just because the celebs are giving it a go, it doesn’t mean you should too, right?

So, if you are about to give up on the dating world and go back to a past love, we are here to remind you that if you want something different, you are going to have to do something different. Here are just four reasons why you should avoid getting back with your ex at all costs.

1. Some people don’t change

Have they told you it will be different this time around? Well, unfortunately, this very often isn’t the case. One of the things that makes us human is the fact that we are all creatures of habit, and typically people don’t change overnight.

So, although it’s easy for them to promise that they’ve changed and for you to believe that you’ve both grown and moved on as people, the reality is that the same problems are likely to emerge in the future. Once that happy, loved-up, honeymoon period is over, you could find yourself falling back into the same damaging behaviours and cycles as before, leading to a sense of déjà vu and another break-up.

2. The trust has been broken

Trust is so important in a relationship; it takes a long time to build and, sadly, not very long to break. If you’ve already broken up once, it’s likely that there will always be that underlying fear that it could happen again.

This can often be amplified, particularly if it was as a result of infidelity, lying or keeping secrets. More often than not, that  major reason that you broke up often remains as the elephant in the room and is brought up in the heat of an argument, whether related to the current heated discussion or not. This is a surefire sign that the trust is still lacking, and that is no way to start a relationship.

3. You can’t move forward if you’re moving backwards

Unfortunately, you can either move forward or backwards, but you can’t do both – otherwise, you’re just standing still!

So, if you want to start a new life, find yourself, be happy and fall in love again, going back to an ex is not the way to go about this. 

You want to look forward to the future, to the new adventures ahead of you with new people and focus on building new relationships that are much more positive and beneficial for your life.  

4. There are so many other people out there

Finally, you might feel like you’ve been on the dating scene for a while now without much success, but let’s face it, there are quite literally millions of people out there that are single and looking for love, just like you, so why are you going back to an already proven unsuccessful relationship?

You’ve heard the cliché that there’s plenty more fish in the sea, and while it might be cheesy and overused, it is also true. There are so many people out there that could be better suited to you, sharing the same values, aspirations and lifestyle that you hold dear, so don’t settle! Keep at it, and you’ll find someone new who is much better suited to you, or better still enlist the help of an expert matchmaker to take the hard work out of it for you and find that person that you have been searching for!

At Ignite Dating, we understand that the dating journey can take time and that there will be moments when you want to give up and go back to a relationship that’s familiar. But our expert team of matchmakers can help you on your dating journey and offer you support when times get tough. So, if you’re hoping to find the perfect match this year, get in touch with our friendly team today.