Is it really a deal-breaker? Why some things should remain just a number

Do you like your partners to be Tall? Small? Older? Younger? Curvy? Thin?

Perhaps you think you know exactly what your ‘type’ is and what you’re looking for on your dating journey. But in reality, you could actually be hurting your chances of finding the right person.  

In fact, all the things you think are deal-breakers could be holding you back from finding love. Being too focused on specific elements of your criteria is known as mono-manic dating. And we’re here to tell you why sometimes a number should remain just that.

You could be fixating on the wrong things

As we said, you might think that you know what your type is, but when it comes down to it, this could just be something you’ve told yourself and never tested.

Because often, those who have spent their whole life saying they only like men over 6 foot will find love with someone who is 5’8. Or a man who says he loves younger women can find the perfect partner his own age or older.   

Essentially what we’re saying is that you might be telling yourself you have a type, but if you met the right person, this would no longer matter to you.

It could cost you the perfect partner

What’s more, when you spend your time fixating on numbers like height, age, size, etc., you overlook so many other important factors. This could then cost you the perfect partner just because you believe they aren’t meeting the criteria that you have set out for yourself (and them).

By keeping an open mind, you open yourself up to so many other exciting opportunities, and you’re far more likely to find the right partner and ultimately that long-term success that you’ve been searching for.

If you’ve spent your whole dating life looking for a particular ‘type’ with no luck, then maybe now it is time to open your horizons. In the end if you want to get something different, you must do something different. 

The mental is just as important as the physical

Of course, physical attraction is important when dating, but it’s also important to remember that there are lots of other aspects that you need to consider if you want a long-lasting, happy relationship. After all, as the well-known saying goes ‘looks fade but personality lasts a lifetime’.

The mental and emotional part of a relationship is just as crucial as the physical. You want to find a partner that shares similar interests and aspirations to you so that together you can build a meaningful relationship.

If you only focus on someone’s appearance and numbers (height, weight, etc.), then you limit yourself to a smaller number of potential partners and you reduce the likelihood of finding someone with whom you share a genuine emotional connection.

So, why don’t you leave the numbers to the mathematicians and ask yourself, is it really a deal-breaker? And instead of mono-manic dating, try to keep an open mind when embarking on your dating journey.

At Ignite Dating, we understand that the physical side of a person is important, but we also know what is needed to make a deeper connection. That is why our expert matchmakers work closely with you to find out what you really want from a partner, so we can help to find you the perfect match. So, if you’re ready to put your ‘type’ aside and look for a meaningful relationship, our team can help, simply get in touch today to find out more.

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