Why is everybody so obsessed with height in the dating world?

How important in height in the dating world? If you are a regular dating app user, you’ll be very familiar with profiles including height – especially when it’s more than 6ft tall. Perhaps you’ve even asked somebody how tall they are because the information is omitted from a profile or been left wondering what somebody is hiding if they leave this information out.

Given the amount of attention given to tall stature on the apps, it can be surprising to learn the average male height in the UK is 5ft 9in. However, according to a 2014 study, 57.1% of women said a man’s height was important to them, compared to 40% of men who viewed woman’s height as important. Another study on dating aps found men that were 6ft 3in or 6ft 4in got 60% more messages than men that were 5ft 7in or 5ft 8in. It’s not uncommon for height to take priority in a profile above listing any significant personality traits.

Tinder even ran an April Fool’s Day joke stating they were launching a Height Verification Badge to ensure nobody was fibbing about their actual stature.  They owned up to the prank but urged users to “stand tall…or short (we don’t care) and embrace who you are.” Height is often an obsession in many parts of life, whether it’s obsessing about the prime minister’s height (5ft 6in) or the fact tall people earn more.

So why does it matter to so many people that their partner fits their height preferences?

For some it’s purely for practical reasons, as they find dating shorter partners can lead to back pain and discomfort as they constantly lean down to be close to them. Taller ladies find height information important when they prefer to find a date who is similar in hight or taller than them. They also use their profile as a place to let prospective dates know in advance that they are tall, feeling some men don’t like a taller date as they feel “emasculated”.  

Other women report feeling more petite and feminine when they are by the side of somebody taller than them. Many still want the option of wearing heels when they are going out with their partner without the extra inches resulting in making them taller than their significant other.

Some people even feel so passionate about the subject they embellish the truth. You may have experienced a match with somebody who has tweaked the truth and added a few bonus inches, trying to attract people to want to meet with them but ultimately leading to disappointment when they are caught out fibbing. Overfocusing on any attribute in dating does run the risk of missing out on what could have been an amazing match. Automatically ruling anybody out who is less than 6ft tall may mean you could miss out on somebody who could have been perfect for you. Having an open mind and not thinking about physical attributes means you can really focus on who the person is and the values and lifestyles you share. Everyone has attributes they search for but overfocusing on too much box ticking means you might inadvertently rule out somebody special. At the end of the day, there’s nothing wrong with being shorter or taller than your partner. Being too obsessed with landing somebody of a certain height might eventually reveal incompatibility when it’s clear you didn’t have enough in common outside of physical attributes you look for. So, embrace everything a person has to say on their profile and be open-minded – perhaps the perfect match for you is the opposite of what you expected!

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The best opening lines to use on dating apps

First impressions are always important, and this is particularly true when it comes to breaking the ice on a dating app. There is so much competition in the online dating space, so a simple “hey” or a waving emoji often won’t cut it. These are often unpopular ways to make initial contact as many daters view them as plain lazy. An unoriginal opening line can often be ignored, which can leave you feeling fed up and exhausted by conversations that go nowhere.

The problem is going for a pickup line can feel cheesy, especially if you’ve experienced some particularly cringy openings online or IRL. You’ll recognise the type – everything from “Did it hurt when you fell, when you fell from heaven” to “I’m no photographer but I can picture us together”.  While these sorts of lines used to be confined to chatting somebody up in real life, they have made their mark in the digital world as daters try the same tactic on somebody they’d like to get to know better. With apps, you don’t have the same real-life advantage of flirty smiles and catching somebody’s eye first – so there really is a lot riding on that first line. So how do you tread the line between being too bland and too cheesy?

Ask questions

If you are chatting to lots of matches in the hope of meeting somebody special, then it can feel soul destroying to be typing the same message out again and again. Plus, it can come across as if you’ve made little effort to craft something original if you fall back on the same opener each time. A safe middle ground is to ask somebody questions about their profile to demonstrate you’ve paid attention to what they’ve said rather than just chucking them the same standard opener you’ve used on everybody else. This can be especially useful if you share the same interests, or you spot something you’d love to know more about. It also lets your date know you’ve tried rather than mass messaging to see who replies. However, sometimes a potential love interest’s profile is a bit sparse on detail or you just can’t find something you can relate to. So how can you craft something fun and original without the risk of making the other person cringe?

Quirky opening lines

While they might not be for everybody, a jokey or slightly cheesy opening line can be a good way of gauging if somebody shares the same sense of humour as you. If you try a light-hearted opening line and it does not hit the mark, it might be a hint that you and this person might not hit it off anyway. What might seem like a hilarious joke to you may fall flat when you unleash it on somebody else. If you are going down this route, there can be quite a fine art to coming up with a quip that is clever and interest-grabbing with the right amount of humour. You certainly don’t want to come on too strong, so it’s more about being fun, flirty, and helping to break the tension that can come with chatting with a stranger. Sometimes an interesting and clever question is plenty to show you’re trying while giving them something to work with in their response. You can even pose two questions in your opener which gives them the option to answer one if they don’t like the other one. You want to demonstrate you are curious to learn more about them while piquing their interest enough to reply.

Find mutual interests

Other top tips include commenting on their pet photos, as anybody who has included these is likely to be an animal lover and will be happy to chat about their beloved pet. Travel photos mean you may be able to relate to somewhere they’ve been, or you could always ask them what the best thing was about a destination they’ve visited. Have a bit of fun by asking them to describe themselves in a handful of emojis, which allows them to show off their creative side and adds a bit of fun to the chat. You can even be light-hearted about the dating fails you’ve come up against by asking them the worse opening line they’ve experienced. Asking about their favourite weekend plans gives you an idea of what they like to do which helps judge how compatible you’ll be. And remember, if you’re worried about being judged for what you type, remember often people are just happy that somebody else made the first move. And if you don’t hear back, don’t despair – inboxes get clogged up and a lack of reply is no reason to take it personally.

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Why are there so many married people on dating apps?

It’s unfortunate fact of life that not everybody you encounter on dating apps is single. A large-scale survey of dating app users suggested that a whopping 30% of dating app users are married, while another 12% are in a relationship.

There are a number of reasons people pretend they are single when they are actually attached, and it is not all about securing a casual hook-up behind their partner’s back. Sometimes it’s about boredom with married life and seeking the thrill of knowing they can still win over somebody new. Others may be in self-destruct mode, knowingly wrecking something that was good in their life, whether it’s an established marriage or the unwavering love of a significant other. It may even be somebody who is browsing to see who is out there and what the fuss is all about, or seeking validation with no intentions of meeting somebody in real life. It could all be innocent enough if you have started a new relationship and haven’t yet got around to uninstalling your dating apps yet. 

Some people are just looking to make friends. And some, sadly, are actively seeking an affair. The online world opens up a huge potential audience of single people available to chat with, giving these sorts of people ample opportunity to toy with people’s emotions. 

This type of behaviour can easily end in heartbreak, both for the person being pursued and the partner who remains in the dark until a deception is discovered. It can be a crushing blow to discover the person you’ve been chatting to has duped you into believing they are single. It may be a string of red flags have alerted you to their behaviour, or a Google search has unearthed pictures of them posing happily with their significant other. Many are left feeling guilty that they didn’t know somebody was married sooner, even when it was not their fault that they were misled into believing the person they were chatting to was single. Once you are involved with somebody who turns out to be attached it can be hard to let go.

There are plenty of signs to look out for if you worry somebody you are chatting to online isn’t the real deal. Somebody who is concealing their true relationship status may be reluctant to talk about their personal life and won’t meet in public places or let you visit their home. It could be a blurry photo which indicates they are trying to hide something about themselves. They may disappear for long stretches of time which is the parts of the week they are with their partner and can’t message you back. 

It can, of course, be devastating to discover somebody you are in a relationship with has been actively chatting to people on dating apps, leading to shattered trust and heartbreak. Even catching out a partner who says they are only browsing profiles can lead to fears they are questioning the validity of your relationship and looking to see who else is out there.

Team up with the experts

It can really pay to work with a quality dating agency who check the digital footprints, ID, and backgrounds of the clients they work with. Matchmaking offers the perfect peace of mind on your dating journey, as matchmakers work hard to check everyone they work with is genuine. Every client Ignite Dating works with is interviewed face-to-face to make sure they are who are they say they are and to ensure they are unattached and genuinely available to date. This means a stress-free search for love as you can embrace every opportunity and just concentrate on enjoying a series of wonderful dates with people you’ll really share a connection with.

Matchmakers become like trusted friends, supporting you with every step of your search for love. We can take all the hard work away, leaving you with a streamlined and enjoyable dating journey. Get in touch today and find out more!