Dating can feel like walking through a maze. Sure, it’s fun and thrilling, but it can also be a little disorienting. One of the most common challenges people face when looking for love is figuring out whether they’re in a situationship or on the path to a real relationship.
If you’re currently dating or you’ve been with someone for a few months and you’re unsure where things are going with someone, you’re not alone.
The good news? There are some clear signs that will help you to tell the difference between someone who’s just enjoying the moment and someone who’s genuinely ready to commit to a relationship.
What is a situationship, really?
A situationship is a romantic connection that lacks clear boundaries or commitment. It’s more than a hookup, but not quite a relationship and is usually undefined by one or both partners. Unless both partners are happy with this arrangement, it can lead to frustration, mixed signals and unanswered questions.
If you’re unsure whether you’re in a situationship, here’s how to spot whether someone’s ready to commit (or not):
1. Consistency is everything
One of the most obvious signs that someone is ready to commit is consistency. This means they show up for you consistently, not just when it’s convenient for them. For example, they text you regularly, make plans in advance and follow through with their promises. If someone only gets in touch when they’re bored or lonely, chances are, they’re not looking to build something real, and you’re in a situationship.
2. They communicate clearly
People who are emotionally available and ready to commit to a serious relationship don’t play games with you. They’re open about their intentions and aren’t afraid to have “the talk.” If your partner is avoiding these bigger conversations about labels or they get uncomfortable when you bring up the future, that’s a sign they might not be ready to commit or interested in anything serious. On the other hand, a potential partner will want to know how you feel, too. They’ll ask where you stand, as well as share their own feelings to make sure you’re on the same page.
3. You’re part of their future plans
It doesn’t mean they’re going to propose next week, but someone who’s serious about you will naturally include you in their future plans. Whether that’s planning a trip, inviting you to family events, or just talking about where you see yourselves in a year or two. If your connection feels stuck in the present, they rarely discuss the future and they’ve never asked you to meet friends or family, this might be more of a situationship.
4. They’re emotionally available
A person who’s ready for a relationship is emotionally open. They’ll share parts of their life with you, talk about their past and allow themselves to be vulnerable around you. They don’t shy away from difficult conversations, and they handle conflict with maturity. However, if they keep you at arm’s length emotionally or dodge anything that feels “too deep,” it’s worth asking them why.
5. You feel secure, not confused
One of the most telling signs about the future of your partnership is how you feel. Someone who’s serious about you should never leave you guessing. You’ll feel seen, heard and valued, and you won’t be afraid to have deep and meaningful conversations with them. You won’t be constantly questioning where you stand or what they want. Peace, not confusion, is the vibe when someone is truly invested in building something real with you.
Final thoughts
It’s easy to get swept up in the excitement of a new connection, but when you’re looking for something meaningful, clarity is key. For this reason, it’s important to not only pay attention to the red flags but also to tune into the green ones, like open communication, consistent effort and genuine emotional presence.
If you’re stuck in the grey area, it’s okay to ask direct questions and seek honesty. You deserve someone who wants the same things as you and who isn’t afraid to show it.
If you’re still looking for that spark, Ignite Dating can help. Get in touch with our team of expert matchmakers to help you find that genuine connection and start an exciting new relationship this year.
