If the last time you were active in the dating scene you were dancing to Mr. Loverman, sipping Archers & Lemonade whilst making eyes at the cute guy across the bar, then the bad news is that the dating scene has changed. With people working longer hours, and the advent of the internet, we no longer socialise the way we used to.
Divorce rates dropped substantially in 2018, but there were still over 90,000 couples making the decision to go it alone. After taking time to heal, focusing on the children and exhausting your friends ‘single friends’ list, how do you go about meeting the one, second time around?
Most people turn to online apps. Quick, easy and disposable, but is that what you want and
even then, is it for real? A cheeky ‘wink’ in your coffee break most of the time it’s great.
But online dating comes with risks. There were over 4,500 reports of romance fraud in 2018, accumulating losses of over £50,000,000, and those are worrying statistics when trying to keep safe. Common sense and gut instinct is key – if someone is reluctant to talk on the
After taking time to heal, focusing on the children and exhausting your friends ‘single friends’ list, how do you go about meeting the one, second time around?
MICHELLE BEGY, MATCHMAKER & HEADHUNTER, IGNITE DATING
telephone or meet, then they probably aren’t who they say they are.
If online dating isn’t for you, then offline agencies may well work, and more and more professional people are turning to use them.
A good agency will take time to get to know you and what you’re looking for, and as members are interviewed and ID hecked, you can be confident that matches are serious.
At the top end of offline service is head hunting a dedicated professional working with you to find the one. It costs more but is great for people who know what they are looking for and the rewards can be spectacular. You can be as prescriptive as you want; from height and build, to salary and education, or simply types and characteristics – head-hunters excel at using all sources to find your match.
Unfortunately, your first date probably won’t be your last and it is harder as you get older to find the one. Try to be open minded and if you really aren’t sure after the first date, then always have a second one. Whatever is the right forum for you, enjoy and embrace the exciting journey that you are on.
Credit: QueenBee magazine
